Jut realised that it will be less than a week b4 I have to get blood tests again for next chemo -- bleugh. Dr A is being A for Adamant that we don't waste anymore time getting on with my chemo, so we are aiming for a two week cycle again, reverting to Tuesdays despite the late start this week ...
I was really grumpy this time, but it makes the coming home nicer! There has been a bit of snow here this morning but it is now super sunny bright, and I think we should pop over to Trentham and get some fresh air.
16 comments:
Great to be back in touch. Still marking but took time out to read this. Keep on going Pet! Love Christine
welcome home |) will add pic2 sb of thurs for you asap xxx
Wish we lived closer together Sue, love Julie
Hi Sue, I must say you are taking it all in your stride. I don't know how you do it, but I am glad you are such a strong minded person. That positive attitude keeps you going. It is no wonder you feel grumpy somtimes with what you have to go through. Keep your chin up. Love. Cousin Pauline. xxx
Many people will walk in and out of your life,
But only true friends will leave footprints in your heart
To handle yourself, use your head;
To handle others, use your heart.
Anger is only one letter short of danger.
If someone betrays you twice, it is your fault
Great minds discuss events;
Small minds discuss people.
He who loses money, loses much;
He who loses a friend, loses much more;
He who loses faith, loses all.
Beautiful old people are works of art.
Learn from the mistakes of others
You can't live long enough to make them all yourself.
Friends, you and me ... You brought another friend ... and we started our
group ... our circle of friends ... and like a circle ... there is no
beginning or end ... Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is mystery. Today is a gift.x
Hello! I am glad that you are home and I think it is better not to waste any time! :-)
Loads of love, Kasia xxx
PS. Im fed up with the sale! :-(
love the poem. Who wrote it? interesting if depressing article in Grazia re. how men are 7 times more likely than women to leave relationship if partner is seriously ill. Poignant and shocking case studies - men leaving goodbye NOTES , cheating etc , their behaviour devastating their wives more than the illness.. The psychologist expert explains - Men .. are natural-born problem solvers. Illness isn't easy to fix .. this makes them feel invalidated. It frightens them and they withdraw emotionally ... hmm .. they also apparently feel threatened by women's female support network . How can they compete. The men who do stick around , and many do proving great support , tend to be the ones who can admit to their fears. Well i suppose you don't need a degree in Psychology to work that out. Interesting piece though. The truth is we wives will know before we get ill if we are married to a man or a mouse.
yes, cathy, not surprising, I've heard this b4, and it's well known among cancer charity workers, for instance .. and I am very lucky in having a very strong wife at my side ...
on the other hand, it is not unique to men to be heartless .. a friend of mine knows a bloke who got testicular cancer and not only did his wife decide that was the right time to leave him, but she also wanted half of the critical illness insurance money he had!!!
The poem leaver wasn't me, dunno who that anon poster is, or where the poem is from
xxxxx
ps hi Christine, good to hear from you again ...
No one really knows
What kind of bond we share
And even if I told them
They probably wouldn't care
You are very dear to me
I hope you know it's true
And now that you are sick
Tell me what that I should do?
While you've been gone
A part of me has been lost
It's like I've taken our friendship for granted
And now I'm paying the cost
I never knew how much you meant to me
Until you went away
The thought of you being really sick
Haunted me every day
I spent a few days at school alone And my weekend was such a bore
A lot of my time was spent in my room
I think my mum's ready to break down the door
And now I make this vow to you To keep until the end
I'll help you through the pain and tears
Until our rivers bend
So if you ever need someone
You know just who to call
I'll be here by the phone
To catch you if you fall.x
The saddest story was of a woman and mother of two whose husband left a I'm not coping / not strong enough note and disappeared .Wife gave HIM lots of support and reassurance and eventually he returned. She is been successfully treated but lives in fear of the cancer returning in case husband reacts as he did before. As said in the ANON poem - If someone betrays you twice , it's your own fault - though that's easy for me to say from my position of current good health.
who is writing the poems Suze?
Jan(Jay2)
xxxxx
hi jan (jay2) no idea who is writing the poems ... not you then!
Cathy, that idea that women have to support men so they can deal with the woman's problems is part of what put the lid on being heterosexual for me .. how often did I live through that? I've heard about it often too .. it seem that many men don't have emotional intelligence to cope with someone else's distress in a creative way .. they go under saying: "it's hurting me too much that you are hurt .."
YEAH, right, it makes me laugh.
OK, I know not all men are like that, and some of my best mates are men who ARE emotionally strong and supportive (but they are GAY MEN! LOL )
I know generalisations are silly, but it's been my personal experience that the wife in my life is amazingly resilient and supportive in times of serious difficulty and I am so glad to have her by my side.
dont have a poetic bone in my body so definitely not me.
in my personal experience its not just men who opt out in times of crisis. my female best friend of 30years also disappeared out of my life because "it's hurting me too much that you are hurt .."
people are indeed strange creatures
Suze, i'm so very glad that your wife is strong, resilient, supportive and right by your side. Fighting the battle is hard enough, support is vital (hoping this is vaguely coherent, drugs being a bit troublesome today)
love
Rosy
Rosy, that's terrible .. how cruel
I must admit that some ppl seem to cross the road to avoid you when they know your health situation, but conversely several other ppl, who used to have little to do with me, have become more available now.
Indeed, many make a point of keeping in better touch and giving me time which cheers my days, for sure
xxxxxx
yes , inability to cope with other people's suffering is not gender-specific and yes , friends as well as partners can let you down when needed most. The thing is , avoiding illness , hospitals etc makes you even more scared.People can have similiar fear of engaging with disability. It's sad. There's nothing wrong with fear but sometimes if you get on with it , it's not as harrowing as you thought it would be. I've visted several relatives who have had cancer and some of these occasions have been pleasant with the cancer patient on good form , relaxed and cheerful but my brother avoids it as he can't bear to see them suffering / declined from their former state of great health. Some folk want life to be so anodyne ( have I spelt that right? ) . Just because you feel fear you don't have to be a coward and people who cross the street to avoid someone with cancer are cowards.
Anonymous said...
Hi Sue, What a lovely day the sun was quite warm. We went to monkey world, took a big double sandwich each, your Dad said gosh these are huge, the thing is it was salmon, and loads of salad so very healthy.Did you get your blood tests O K. Dads going for a kidney scan this week.Just going to get the tea now lots of love L M .xxxxx
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